The Book Effect- Fifty Shades Style

Side Note: This blog does contain crude language and thoughts. 

This is what happens when you're born without much of a censor :)

In 2012, I, like everyone else in the world read Fifty Shades of Grey. And I, too, fell for the handsome, yet troubled Christian Grey.

I read them more out of curiosity– not curiosity for sex, bondage, and living in a submissive world. No, I was more curious as to the pull it had for  people. Women I never thought would entertain the idea of holding a book like that were eating it up….and openly talking about it. Well, most of them. Others tended to keep it a dirty little secret.

It was interesting to see the social reaction to the BDSM trilogy. For as long as I can remember, here in the US, sex has been considered “black and white with no room for Grey” (see what I did there? ha!). Sex is between a man and woman, the woman on her back, and should only be used for procreation. Oh, and women supposed to enjoy it; they’re really just there. If you enjoy it or ask for it, you’re a whore.

But, Mira, that’s not true! Women have been open about sex for years now! Just look at a Cosmo.

Have they really though?

Before Fifty Shades, the idea of asking to be tied up was unheard of. Note to the general public. There is a whole world of BDSM that would make your toes curl (in a bad or even good way) and delving into it would make you feel embarrassed and flustered. And if you don’t believe me, read the following words and tell me how they make you feel: anal sex, blow job, spanking.

And I’m not saying that feeling embarrassed is a bad thing! Please, don’t get me wrong. I just find the disconnect we have with sex and sexuality, as a society, fascinating.

We accept pregnant teenagers (hell, we make them celebrities!), barely dressed singers shaking and grinding on a stage, and 10-year-olds buying Victoria’s Secret. No, I’m not kidding. I’ve seen it.

But the minute you suggest female Viagra…oh ho! You must be a freak!

To have laws established that don’t allow certain, ahem, “behaviors” is absurd when Miley Cyrus can stroke herself on TV with a foam finger.

That’s right, there are LAWS on what you can and can’t do in the privacy of your own bedroom. Shit, to take it a step further, people are having to fight just to get married. Really? Shouldn’t our government be more concerned with homelessness and taxes?

What happens between two consenting lovers is between them.

Ok, let me step off this soap box. Blogging may be dangerous for someone as open as me. This post is merely about how books can change public opinion, or at least get the people talking. 🙂 Which, looking back at Fifty Shades, is what it did.

I think things might be taking a turn for a change after the release of Fifty Shades. I’m sure there will be (if there isn’t already) some reality show on TLC about living a bondage lifestyle. I’ve already seen publications like Newsweek talk about what sex toys you can safely take onto a plane (take the batteries out and keep it under 7 inches) and how to spank your partner properly.

Now, with the movie coming out on Valentine’s Day (that takes care of the foreplay fellas), it’ll be even more interesting to see how the masses act toward bringing it to life.

Books have a weird effect like that. I love it.

Remember, everything in this post is an opinion and I'm always open to hearing another's thought. Feel free to comment below-- I just ask that everyone be open to everyone. You don't have to agree, just be open. That's the beautiful thing with our culture :)




3 Line Thursday- my new favorite Challenge

I’ve quickly learned over the past year or so that one of the most important elements to being a writer is, well, writing.

And writing often– as in every day.

Strangely enough, I think THAT’S actually the biggest problem I have. Along with editing (which my grammar is not the best, making that a very long process), advertising, marketing, having a full time job and a life, I tend to forget the writing part 🙂

To help me with this, my amazing mentor/fellow author C. Jai Ferry (who also one of my favorite people ever) got me into these writing challenges, one of them being 3 Line Thursday.

Awesome challenge for anyone at any level. Whether you’re a veteran writing with 100s of books under your belt, or a newbie like me, its brings out the best in just a few words.


Courtesy of David Shakes

Each week, the folks at 3 Line Thursday set you up with a picture prompt. You have only 3 lines to bring out your story based solely on that picture.

Our picture for week 14 was from David Shakes – an awesome photographer and writer.

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 So, out of 49 entries, I took 1st place!!

I couldn’t (and still don’t!) believe it. This is only my 3rd entry to this unique challenge and the feeling is as exciting as when I published Finding the Christmas Spirit. To have someone read through and pick my 3 little lines, I can’t express my happiness.

Poetry isn’t my strong suit, at least I don’t think so. And you kinda have to think in that direction with such a short amount of information to give the reader. But I think that’s what I love about it– it forces me to use a format that’s unfamiliar to me. Its scary and beautiful all in one.

Now, its my turn to judge! So grab some paper, head over to 3 Line Thursday and give it a whirl. You might be judging it next week *wink*